About Me

Victoria Kirby (she/they) BA (honours), Msc, Msc, MBACP (Accred)

I have a Master’s in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich and a Master’s in Public Health from Leeds Metropolitan University. I studied Psychology at the University of Newcastle, where I received a BA Honours degree.

After completing integrative therapy training at the University of Greenwich, I went on to complete Internal Family Systems (IFS) training, accredited by the IFS Institute.

I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Learn more about my therapeutic approach here.

For several years, I worked for a large teaching hospital in central London, where I coordinated a specialist counselling service supporting people with issues related to sex, sexuality, and sexual diversity.

I now offer sex and relationship therapy through my private practice. I hold an advanced accreditation as a Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversities Therapist awarded by Pink Therapy. I practice queer affirmative therapy and work with individuals, couples, and multi-partnerships. I have completed the Internal Family Systems Couples Training approved by the IFS Institute and the Gottman Institute’s Level 1 and Level 2 relationship training.

In addition to my core training, I have undertaken a range of CPD courses, including Mindfulness, Compassion-Focused Therapy, Polyvagal Theory, Hakomi body psychotherapy, and EMDR. While these are not my core modalities, I integrate principles from each, particularly in relation to body-based work and trauma processing. I incorporate an understanding of the impact of trauma on the nervous system, and the importance of self-and co-regulation into both my individual and couples work.

I have also completed group work training, specifically in transformational skills, meditation teaching, conscious touch practices, and sexual health education for professionals.

I design training and resources for other professionals.

Before training as a therapist, I worked in public health roles within the NHS. I was the Sex and Relationships Young People’s Lead in South West Yorkshire, and later a Senior Sexual Health Promotion Specialist in South London, where I led on work with men who have sex with men (MSM) and gender-diverse people assigned male at birth. In these roles, I developed and delivered training, contributed to policy and strategy, created educational materials, and led campaigns aimed at improving both sexual and mental health.

This work was grounded in a commitment to addressing health inequalities and gave me a deep understanding of how social and political factors shape both physical and psychological wellbeing. I bring this awareness into my therapeutic practice, supporting clients with sensitivity to the broader contexts that influence their lives.

Learn more about my fees and location, and contact me to inquire about my availability if you are interested in working together.